Little white lies are part of the lubricant that keeps the cogs of the social machinery running. For instance, if someone tells a bad joke, we usually smile. We don't tell them they're not funny, because that would be rude and might hurt their feelings. The problem (according to Joyce Ehrlinger, a professor of psychology at Florida State University) is that sometimes these little white lies can be dangerous if people take them too seriously and become overconfident in their abilites. In such cases, being less polite would help to deflate the ego of these people and bring them back to reality.
Ehrlinger explains:
"There's definitely no harm in some types of overconfidence, and I am not suggesting that we should stop living in a polite society. The worst that might come from someone believing that they are funnier than, in reality, they are is a bit of embarrassment or wasted effort auditioning for 'America's Got Talent.'"
That said, she argues it's important to note when politeness might come at a cost. There are many times when overconfidence carries serious consequences.
"Overconfident doctors and lawyers might offer their patients or clients poor advice," she said. "There are ways in which overconfidence is dangerous, and it might be important to set aside politeness in the service of helping people avoid the perils of overconfidence."
I can see a problem here. If the overconfident person is your boss, or someone with power over you, it wouldn't be a good idea to risk insulting them. In such cases, how do you ever guide the person back to reality?
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Get that expert-in-his-own-mind to publicly pontificate on something that later turns out to be an inflatable Nessie.
In college, I was tinkering with majoring in photography. A very nice classmate was very intent on it. Problem is that she wasn't good at it. I'm an outspoken guy, but in this case I was truly flummoxed. So was our professor. He had no problem tearing into me or the star pupil when we deserved it, but didn't want to crush this girl's spirit.
Years later, I was making an educational video. One actress was great in the audition, but proved to be awful in performance. Fortunately, we had to change a location and used that as a way to rewrite her lines such that we cut her part down to almost nothing.
I'm a graphic artist and have been considered 'professional' for 40 years, not because I'm necessarily good, but because some people have actually paid me for pieces. I know artists are a dime a dozen. I draw, paint, animate, design cloth and clothing because I like my world and frankly, I could care less if anyone else does or not.