Philanderers International

Here's another site that makes you wonder if it's real or fake: Philanderers.com. It's a service to help people who are married have extramarital affairs. My first thought was that it was a joke. But upon looking around it for a while, it appears legitimate. I wonder if any single people use this who want to have an affair with someone who's married? And here's an evil thought: if you ever try to cancel your membership, they could threaten to tell your spouse.

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Posted on Tue Jan 06, 2004



Comments

Yep the site affairmatch.com is a sham. Where's the class action lawyers for this stuff? Must be worth a few mil to take these guys down! Hell, I don't care if my wife finds out I was looking around, I just want to hang these guys.
Posted by Bryce  on  Fri Aug 03, 2007  at  12:05 AM
Philanderers is probably the only honest site for married people. The site is real, the people are real and the affair I am currently enjoying is real. The only problem is some areas don't have many women profiles. Of course, men outnumber the women because that is generally the way it is.

In many years on the Philanderer site, i have never come across a shill profile. Does that mean every woman I have ever written to responded? Yeah, in my dreams. Fortunately, quite a few have responded, exchanged emails with me and a resulted in face to face meeting. From those a few select turned into genuine affairs.
Posted by averageguy  on  Sat Sep 01, 2007  at  06:16 PM
FYI- I have seen both sides of Ashley M. I have actually had drinks with 2 ladies and then a few that seem to just disappear right before a meeting. Hmmmm. I also think there are more ladies to be met from AM, but they get so much spam from men that it's hard to get through the shuffle.
Posted by David  on  Thu Oct 11, 2007  at  11:08 AM
Here is something I received from philanderers.co which btw I DO NOT belong to!

You Won?
From: .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address)
You may not know this sender.Mark as safe|Mark as unsafe
Sent: Fri 1/04/08 9:41 PM
To:

Dear Winner, We are pleased to inform you that as a result of our recent UKNATIONAL LOTTERY DRAWS (#669) held on the 20th of December, 2007. Your e-mailaddress attached to ticket number: 82689846671030 with serial number009/01 whichconsequently won in the category "D" with the following Winning Numbers8,10,13,22,32,38 Bonus No. 4.You have therefore been approved for a lump sum pay out of
Posted by A  on  Sat Jan 12, 2008  at  05:57 PM
I have tried Ashley Madison (AshleyMadison) and have to say the site is all fake. The winks you send, never reach the other person, it is computr generated, so you then pay to contact the other person that maybe never wanted to chat with you. It is just a scam to suck up your money. I would stay away from the site. I will try to spread the word, I also contacted customer service via email, 3x and no reply, and then also called and never got a call back
Posted by Benjamin  on  Tue Mar 18, 2008  at  09:21 PM
Wow guys ease up! I met the most wonderful men on AM I actually had to take myself off cause I was bombarded with so much mail from great guys! All willing to travel and go that "extra mile" to meet me.
Posted by Pauline Vera  on  Tue Apr 29, 2008  at  01:32 PM
So as we speak I am "chatting" with a fake person from AM now. She is talking to me in Yahoo IM which is surprising since when I "initiated contact" and paid the credits to speak to her, she didn't say anything until there was 3 minutes left of the 20. On her profile, it said we live in the same city and that she is middle eastern. In IM she says she lives in the UK (But is relocating here soon) and was born in Spain (Though first she said she was IN Spain but when I asked her to tell me something in Spanish she switched to say she is in the UK). On her profile she mentions something about using a web cam but now as luck would have it, her web cam is broken (amazing coincidence, no?) but she just agreed to send me more photos, though, surprise surprise, she never sent them. are we really surprised by this? Nnnnoooooooo. The poor thing couldn't remember one lie to the next. The entire conversation was her back pedaling about things she said before that contradicted her more recent statements. She would avoid answering questions that were available on her AM profile and is just now saying she has to go to work. In case any of you want to try and talk to this "person" as well, her AshleyMadison profile ID is 1934945 and her screen name is coulia231. Good times!
Posted by Sk0t  on  Thu May 01, 2008  at  03:52 AM
Philanderers is for real, I met a lovely lady seeking the same in life I was and we are having a beautiful affair. We both fulfill each others needs and have much fun together. We cannot seem to get enough of one another. Ashley Madison baits their site heavily with fake ads, legit profiles are sparse. What married lady in their right mind would post pictures for the world to see freely like they do on AM?
Posted by Dave  on  Thu Jun 12, 2008  at  10:26 AM
I am surprised at all of the guys who think AM is a scam. I have met a number of really hot women there. Most met me at a hotel room and were naked with me within minutes of arrival. At the same time, Adult Friend Finder and Horney Match seemed to be full of phony women. I did not meet one woman from either of those sites. AFF sent some of my emails strait to "bulk mail." I was told by the woman receiving it that she couldn't read the letter, and that AFF said I was somehow abusing the system. THAT was a great waste of money. AM is great. You guys who think it is a hoax are doing someting wrong. Sorry. More fucking for me.
Posted by Rick  on  Wed Sep 17, 2008  at  08:59 PM
Wait,I think I need some clarification here guys... You can't make your marriage work(or wont try), you're too inept to figure out how to cheat on your own so you subscribe to a site that guarantees an affair for $250 and you can't get that to work for you either?? No wonder your marriage is sexless, what wife would want to touch the pathetic, disaffected blob of what used to be her husband?? You're all hopeless and probably gay, but good luck on your quest for more misery to distract you from how lonely it is in your closet... Enjoy paying for the herpes in the mean time! Idiots.
Posted by Maddy  on  Thu Oct 09, 2008  at  12:24 AM
awesome ^^
Posted by alexis  on  Wed Oct 22, 2008  at  08:31 PM
haven't any of you ever heard of craigslist? the worst that can happen there is spamming and propositions from whores just like on these other sites, but at least you're not paying for it!
Posted by john  on  Tue Nov 25, 2008  at  02:15 AM
I agree with Rick. Ashley Madison appears to be legit. I've recently met an amazing women on there...met in the flesh, not on chat. Perhaps some of the profiles are fake but for the most part it's worked great. Perhaps the guys who repeatedly fail have difficulty expressing themselves and provide little for women to be attracted to. Good luck though. PS Maddy (above)...does Santa Clause still dwell in your dream world?
Posted by Charles  on  Wed Dec 10, 2008  at  02:06 PM
I tried out AM and have concluded it is a scam. I was contacted by a few women who also gave a key to their photos, and they were hot...which was just what I needed to see to keep me excited about being on the site. I tried to contact these women repeatedly and got no response. When I first bought the minimum number of credits, it cost $49. When these credits were used up, and I wanted to again buy the minimum number of credits, the price had been upped to $79. They do offer an "affair guarantee," but you have to buy the max credits, something like a grand. Who are the women that become your guaranteed affair? Prostitutes posing as unfulfilled wives?
Posted by Fool  on  Fri Jan 02, 2009  at  08:38 PM
AM is a fraud stay away from it.. They're having a superbawl add this year, with your suckers money.
Posted by Da man  on  Fri Jan 23, 2009  at  07:46 AM
I never got the paid membership on AM because of all the bogus responses I received with my free membership. I was contacted by women who's limits were "cyber affair/cyber dating." They would also never be living in my area. It just made me suspicious about the whole thing. The last contact that I received notified me of a "secret admirer." When someone ads you as a favorite, then you receive a message that you have a "secret admirer." I replied with a "wink" that I had an unpaid membership and to initiate contact with me. I was then blocked by this user. It just seems like all of the responses have been geared towards getting me to buy credits. I actually met women on Adult Friend Finder. I don't recommend Fling. I paid for that, and didn't get anything out of it.
Posted by Rob  on  Sun Jan 25, 2009  at  11:06 AM
I'm just responding to the ONE woman who's posted on here. Of course these sites work for you. The ratio of men to women is vastly in your favor. Men are the ones being scammed, not women. They don't have to scam the women because there are an excessive number of men on the site(s).


Note: Outsidelove.com isn't even a dating site. It just seems to be a link trade.
Posted by Rob  on  Sun Jan 25, 2009  at  11:30 AM
Just be realistic in a self evaluation and don't go over your head, maybe even down a bit. It can be fun (has for me), and there are real women on AM, for sure. Forget the ones with model type photos and who are chatting a lot.
Posted by Joe  on  Sun Feb 01, 2009  at  06:25 PM
Now I won't go as far as some to insult the entire male gender, but for crying out loud guys. You've somehow managed to grow a set big enough to cheat on your spouse. But when taken for real money by fake people are now complaining on a different website about being fleeced for that money and won't do anything about it. Thats just dumb. Why in the hell would you even bother with these sites, let alone agree to meet some one only to be told you have to pay out what amounts to black mail. For christ sakes grow a set and go to the cops. Black mail is illegal regarless of the situation. The same goes for their scamming you of money. Either do something about it or go and cry in a corner and never tell anyone. You reep what you soe.
Posted by guy in the bush  on  Fri Feb 06, 2009  at  07:44 AM
Not to sound like an ass, and that is definitely not my intention... but am I the only one who decided to try "reversing" the game/odds? Try signing up as a female on any of these sites -> and VOILA! You have FREE access to everything! Hell, on Wildmatch and Bangmatch, they actually PAY MONEY to females for responding and initiating messages to male members. If a male that they contact actually signs up and joins (for a fee of course), the ladies get extra "pink points" which they can redeem for cash. Don't believe me...? Do some detective work guys, and you'll see that almost every site (aside from plentyoffish, myspace, and facebook perhaps) are only aimed at defrauding males and and making women feel "empowered," for lack of a better word. I've shared the reality with all of you; all I ask is that you go and investigate for yourself, and when you see the actual scam WITH YOUR OWN EYES make sure that you file a report to IC3 as well as send a message to the site admins. 'Nuff said... Sorry to be the buzzkill fellas.
Posted by Cor  on  Sun Feb 08, 2009  at  03:45 AM
No doubt Ashley Madison is the biggest scam in on-line dating. Don't sign up. I'm in Mpls, and there are only 20 woman in the area on the site....think of it....only 20 women. It's not worth it.
Posted by Rusty  on  Wed Feb 18, 2009  at  02:38 PM
As noticed in a previous posting, there are some who feel that married guys who join sites like Ashley Madison do so only because they can
Posted by Sincere  on  Mon Feb 23, 2009  at  11:39 AM
I am a female and have been a member of Ashley Madison since November 2008. I have talked with a lot of men on that site and some are actually normal. Real husbands that aren't having their sexual needs met by their wives anymore. I'm in the same situation with my husband and we've been through counseling, etc and nothing has improved. Since I found a lover on AM, I have to say my marriage has been better. I'm not stressed out about the fact that he doesn't want sex more than twice a month. My lover told me that his wife actually told him that she enjoyed hanging out with him over the weekend. There was not any tension there. No resentment for the lack of affection. We both love our spouses and don't want to get divorced. We have children and families that are very dear to us. I want to grow old with my best friend (my husband), but until then I also want a man to desire me for the woman I still am. My lover does that and more. Thank you Ashley Madison for saving my marriage and my sanity.
Posted by JoannG  on  Tue Mar 03, 2009  at  04:37 PM
.. Alright, so I read all the warnings and I decided to take the chance on AM to see what all the fuss was about. After a month, here is what I found - now you can come to your own conclusion:

1) posted an ad as a Guest (ie. did not buy credits); shortly thereafter I got 5 winks from very nice-looking women (according to ther photos) who wanted to chat with me, but they were not FULL AM members.
2) I purchased credits so that I could "chat" with these women;
3) I sent each of them what I think would be a very intersting email.
4) None of them responded - but that was because none of them had signed into the system for 5+ days;
5) By putting them on the "List", I can tell when they did sign-in to see if they read my mail;
6) 4 of the 5 signed in at 10:18 AM on the same day (yes, all 4 at 10:18) and one at 10:20.
7)Yes, you are getting the picture here - none of them responded to my ad.
8) I created another "Guest ad" - identical profile - Wanna guess how many women sent me winks asking to chat if I can just sign up with AM?

Save the $$ boys; it's a recession out there - lets these bastardos go out of business.
Posted by Zan  on  Wed Mar 04, 2009  at  06:26 AM
I was very surprised knowing that dating sites for extramarital affairs existed. Knowing how the web is (and human nature) I shouldn't have been surprised at all. But, hey, I am not usually interested on cheating.
Posted by myspace girl  on  Wed Mar 18, 2009  at  11:54 AM
adultfriendfinder.com, or better yet, swinglifestyle.com are two that I have used and had very good success. No scams by the site owners, but the users cannot always be trusted, though.

The hard facts are these:

1. All of these sites have mostly men looking to get laid. Sorry guys, the odds are against you.
2. Women can get laid anytime they want, so why use a site at all?
3. Most women on sites (like the ones I listed above) are receptive of couples, not single guys, so unless you already have a women you probably are not going to get a ticket to the dance.
Posted by Steve  on  Sat Mar 21, 2009  at  08:01 AM
It seems to me that online sites to ease the trouble of finding someone to cheat on your spouse with should be a scam. No one wants to be in a loveless, sexless marriage. That's why the divorce rate is over 50% now. Let's be real though, if you are meeting up with random people you meet on the internet for sex, you obviously don't have any real respect for the institution of marriage anyway. Its creeps like you that make it hard for singles to trust anyone interested, regardless of their intentions. I gotta agree with Maddy, how are you gonna tell your spouse when you contract and STD?
Posted by Ash  on  Fri Apr 03, 2009  at  12:10 PM
Very obvious scam. I tried a Guest Membership. I received numerous "Collect" messages (for which one must purchase "credits" to read) from several women with different names from various cities, who, incredibly, happen to have the exact same picture...imagine that! All send identical to-the-letter message: "I've been trying to contact you, but you only have a guest membership" . Geez, how obvious; they don't even TRY to disguise the fact that the site as a fake.
Posted by Tom  on  Tue Apr 07, 2009  at  05:37 PM
Ashley Madison has been incredible....I travel and target the states I go to. It may take a month but soon you will get women sending you crotch shots, texting you all the time and wondering why you don't respond. I was looking for one and had 4 to chose from ...slept with each and found my long time lover...

Can't argue with sucess...
Posted by itworks  on  Sun Apr 19, 2009  at  11:20 PM
AM is basically a con. Sure there are some real women, but this is a side-effect of the scam, real people read the article in the news etc..

AM is a clever, soft-scam, no-one gets really hurt, or loses huge amounts of money. I'm truely an honest guy, but I can't help a sneeking repect for such cons.

I withold my bile for news sources such as the NY Times, which have published articles which, effectively, support the con. Whether they are fooled too, or a unscrupulous writer takes a bribe...

I'm also contemptuous for those posters who come over all old-testament on the 'adulterers' (Stone them why not). To the tiny minority who are truely satisified in their monogamy, or simply feel happier that way, and have expressed there bit of wisdom - I salute you - to the others .... you remind me for all the world of homophobes, driven by fear of their own latent homosexual urges - i.e. look inward first & get wise, rather than sling around the judgements.
Posted by Felix  on  Wed Apr 22, 2009  at  09:20 AM
OK guys. Wait. There is a site that not only does not spam its members, but also does its best to stop spammers from coming on their site. It is legit. The site is Married Secrets. At first I was skeptical, but the more I looked, I was surprised at the quality of the women who put legit profiles there. AM was way too expensive. Check out Married Secrets.

S
Posted by Steve S  on  Wed Jun 03, 2009  at  03:49 PM
Regarding AM...whether it is legit or not, this little test illustrates the problem for men using the site.

I signed up for two accounts recently, one as a male, and one as a female. For the female photo, I found a picture of an attractive woman on the web and blocked out the eyes. This was a natural looking kind of photo and not like some on AM where clearly the person has posted some phony drop dead gorgeous model photo. On the profile, all I said was something like "need someone who treats me nice", and within 24 hours I had received 100 emails with guys wanting to connect to this imaginary person. On the male profile I posted, I've received nothing in the same time frame. So, whether this is a scam or not I can't really say, but I do believe that there are lots of profiles out there where people look nothing like they say they do, and may be using this site just because they are lonely and want some attention. It does not take much to get a bunch of horny guys to pounce on a female who represents herself as wanting no strings attached sex.

My view is that the site is not phony, but that the creators of the site are totally brilliant in the way they implemented it to take advantage of all of us wishful-thinking male suckers. I'd say the odds of a guy really being able to differentiate himself enough to 1) get the interest of one of these females, and 2) to actually find a female that they are want to spend time with are really, really low. Not saying it can't happen, but I think it is like having a single available woman on a battleship in the middle of the ocean with a thousand guys. Someone may get lucky, but your odds ain't good.

By the way...I did this little experiment after I stupidly gave AM about $70 of my money in an feeble attempt to hook up with some needy babe. My mistake, and all I can say to the creators of the site is "you got me on that one", but my motto from here on out is once bitten twice shy.

Men...save your money and don't give AM your hard earned cash, or certainly do so with your eyes wide open.
Posted by Jim  on  Fri Jul 10, 2009  at  02:25 PM
Philanderers is real I met several woman from that site and had affairs with a few of them. Many of these woman are damaged... meaning head cases. So you must realize that for a man the pickings are few in woman and finding a good woman is even slimmer.
While their profiles mention walks in the parks and cuddling... the ones that actually come out and play are either teasers or head cases. The sex with the head cases is usually not worth it..
Posted by Jacque  on  Fri Aug 07, 2009  at  03:15 PM
REAL STORY:

First let me say. Guys, any attractive woman can walk into any bar on any night and find a guy. Why would an attractive woman need Ashley Madison?

I have a female friend who thought that using Ashley Madison would be a good idea. She is in a relationship and wanted to hook up while traveling on business. She posted her pic and hooked up with a guy, right away. The problem was that she left a pic of herself when she was a senior in high school and 125 lbs lighter.

She was waiting in a bar when the guy walked in. He had no clue what was about to hit him because he was looking for a "cute" 125 lb chick. She snuck up on him and to his shock and dismay saw my extremely obese friend. I looked on from the other side of the bar and laughed as the guy looked like he just saw a ghost.

She went upstairs with him and then complained to me later that he "couldn't get it up". Of course he couldn't, you are 250 lbs. My friend is a great person and a lesbian that was looking to experiment. Probably the last time for guys.

Again, what hot girl would need a web site to get laid? Its a site for guys, scamers and pigs!
Posted by Harold  on  Tue Sep 08, 2009  at  08:35 AM
Interesting comment that any attractive woman could find a lover, cruising bars and nightclubs. Well, the professional women that I have met, cannot cruise the bars. The online internet search is their best option. These women are married, as well as school teachers, professors, nurses and doctors, who are very concerned about personal scandal and fatal STDs. It is all a very complicated protocol, balancing discretion with knowing enough about your potential lover to manage the risks of scandal.

However, one comment is partially true, in that once you get past the shills, fakes, and lonely housewives who only want a chat buddy, you will eventually meet face to face with some "head cases". These are attractive women, but unpredictably prone to fits of rage. I found two such head cases, who were drop-dead gorgeous natural blondes who knew how to dress up like Barbie dolls, as for the Hollywood Walk of Fame. But first, they wanted a play date, somewhere private, in the sack. What's wrong with that? In both cases, as soon as the woman was sexually satisfied, feelings of regret and remorse crept into her thoughts. Instead of being allowed to take myself across the goal line, and enjoy some cuddle time in the afterglow, I was treated to surly recriminations or screaming fits of rage, as in "you're just using me for sex... you take too long to cum..." (This was after holding back on my climax, to get her across her finish line.) The other blonde, who coincidentally had a gorgeously thick pelt of bright, flaming red pubic hair, would actually swoon after multiple, screaming orgasms. At the time, I naively told myself "this is workin' out pretty good... as soon as she wakes up, she'll be one grateful professor". However, as soon as she regained consciousness, I had to pin her to the bed, in a wresting hold, to stop her from trying to beat me up. After she calmed down and promised not to hit me again, she casually pretended get busy getting dressed, while she scoped out my peripheral vision, snuck up on me, and let me see some stars! She probably got in a lot of practice with that sucker punch, meeting men, over the internet! Now, looking back at it, I can laugh about it. I never encountered blackmail or extortion, just irrational rage, that might possibly have escalated into a crime passion. Once behind closed doors, these head case women can possibly become quite violent, venting their pent-up rage.
Posted by Richard  on  Tue Sep 22, 2009  at  11:28 AM
That strange typo "crime passion" should have been typed out as a
"crime OF passion" as in

I never encountered blackmail or extortion, just irrational rage, that might possibly have escalated into a crime of passion.
Posted by Richard  on  Tue Sep 22, 2009  at  11:35 AM
If you go the Legal&Disclaimers; tab on the Ashley Madison Website, you'll see that they admit to their scam:
"From time to time this service may include, offer, or initiate winks, collect messages or instant chat from Market Researchers (Online Hosts) simulating attached or single men or women. These efforts are conducted for market research and/or customer experience and/or quality control and/or compliance purposes. Market research information is used to provide analysis, feedback, trends, patterns, social commentary and information in the aggregate and aides in the process of monitoring our system for compliance of our operating standards and code of conduct. Accordingly, Market Researchers (Online Hosts) will NOT be conspicuously identified.

Any interaction or communication with Market Researchers (Online Hosts) is independent of, and separate from, our general database of Member's seeking personal or physical or other kinds of encounters or introductions.

You accept and acknowledge that any written statements, mail messages or instant messages made by Market Researchers are provided for "entertainment" purposes that serve to enhance the user's personal online experience. If you do not wish to be contacted by Market Researchers (Online Hosts) go to 'Manage Profile', then 'Profile Settings' and check this option: "Check this box if you do not wish to be contacted by Market Researchers", then SAVE.

"Check this box if you do not wish to be contacted by Market Researchers", then SAVE."

I suspect the folks at Ashley Madison figure that most people don't bother to read this!
Posted by debonair  on  Tue Sep 22, 2009  at  02:46 PM
Ashley Madison site has many fake ads.
"Minty Fresh", "Dem?desire" are seem to be employees of AM. You get E-mail from them to pull you in to buy a minimum of 100 credit ($80), once you open the E-mail after paying 5 credits to read it, it reads "do you cyber?", "want to chat now?" and you will never hear from them again. The above two seem to be pretty chicks as well. I would like others to keep complaining about this rip off site and expose them to more idiots (all men) and general media as well.
Posted by NM  on  Tue Sep 22, 2009  at  10:32 PM
Just because you were shallow enough to get spoofed doesn't make all men idiots - only you. 'Nuff said.
Posted by Dex  on  Wed Sep 23, 2009  at  03:54 AM
AM is very real. Yes, there are fake profiles, but they are so easy to sniff out. The trick to making AM work is to be patient, which is hard for us guys to do if we are horny and want immediate sex. I am a reasonably normal looking guy and I can write really well. Once every 3-4 months a woman is turned on by my profile and contacts me. Only then do I use my credits to send a message and encourage the woman to E-mail me off AM. I am chatting with a woman right now through my hotmail account. I signed up with AM over two years ago and have 1 credit left of the fifty I originally purchased. At first, I wasted many of these credits messaging women who either weren't interested in me, or, more likely, were fake profiles. But once I learned to sit back and wait for the real women to contact me (or occasionally I can spot a real woman and then I contact her), my AM experiences improved.

A couple other thoughts. I live in the middle of Missouri, so there aren't many women to begin with. I imagine if you live in LA, or Chicago, or NYC, there's more action. Also, there are indeed like a hundred guys for each woman so it is imperative that you write one helluva profile. Not to brag, but mine is fantastic (I write and teach creative writing at the college level), so it lures in a couple women per year. But it is frustrating having to sort through the fake ads, the incomplete ads, and the half-hearted ads (I believe that many real women do create profiles but never really complete them fully because they chicken out).

In short, AM is NO scam. I have been in contact with half a dozen real women over the past two years. The guys who cry scam simply don't know how to work the system or do not understand the system (i.e. AM is a giant sausage fest so it's not surprising to have winks and messages go ignored).
Posted by David  on  Wed Sep 30, 2009  at  02:17 AM
What, pray tell, is a "sausage fest" ?
Posted by Puzzled in Peoria  on  Fri Oct 09, 2009  at  02:39 PM
ASHLEY MADISON IS A SCAM! PERIOD!

I RECEIVED NOTHING BUT AUTOMATED GREETINGS!

I TRIED 2 ACCOUNTS , ONE FOR A MAN LOOKING AND ONE FOR A WOMAN LOOKING? GUESS WHAT ? I COULDn"T FIND EITHER IN THEIR DATABASE!!!!!!!
WHAT A RIPPOFF!! THIS IS A SCAM!

THE UPDATED FILES? / PICS OF WOMEN HAVE CLOTHES and HAIRSTYLES FROM 10 YRS AGO!!RIPOFF!!
HOPE THEY GET THEIRS!!!THEY GOT MY MONEY!
Posted by don jaun  on  Tue Oct 13, 2009  at  03:29 PM
From what I can see, even at the surface level, Ashley Madison is obviously fraudulent. Some posters at this forum have done impressive investigations. For example, the men who purchased two memberships, the second under an alias, identifying themselves as a woman.

However, I must ask, why has no one mentioned the specific method that members use to generate their online personal profiles at Ashley Madison? It is inherently very suspicious.

At Ashley Madison, new profiles are created from a template that can accept photos and typed text. But the template also includes many check boxes, arranged with long lists of preferences, perhaps a hundred or more. They cover such exciting choices as "like lots of foreplay" versus "too busy for preliminaries", or "has a settled love nest" versus "meets discretely at randomly chosen motels". These check boxes are impressively grouped in appealing arrangements, in the various categories of "Who I am looking for", "What turns me on", "My idea of a perfect date", and so on. Oh yes, the check boxes also let each member quickly and explicitly describe which sex acts they do or don't enjoy, and will or won't perform.

As a certain comedian asks-- Is that not a sign?

Further, at Ashley Madison, 98% of women's profiles are filled out, only by checking those boxes, although the site provides several areas to type text!

A "bot" computer program could be set up to check those boxes in different patterns, and automatically populate the site with thousands of fictitious members, with a dazzling variety of interests, aching to be satisfied. Are customers too computer illiterate, to see this? And needless to say, most of those check boxes, with their rather risque descriptions, doubtlessly have strong appeal for men.

The profiles on Ashley Madison stand out in stark contrast to other dating sites that insist on a writing sample, from a live human being. To take one example, PlentyOfFish.com, which is free, and accepts profile posts from anyone, single or married, straight or gay, or bi, or whatever. At PlentyOfFish, there are some checkboxes and pull down lists, for the dry stats like age, marital status, and so on. However, unlike Ashley Madison, PlentyOfFish requires a written paragraph, minimum of about a hundred words. It is very interesting that most of the profiles at PlentyOfFish are written by people who obviously find the written language very challenging. But they do post some text, and appear to have passed the CAPTCHA test! Many photos are hidden from public view, especially for the married women. Many profiles are almost incoherent, but almost all are plausible.

In contrast, the women of Ashley Madison are a strangely silent group, when it comes to posting their own thoughts, upon their profiles. They just check some boxes, and post, with no further comment. Shy? Not very literate, perhaps? Or completely fictitious?
Posted by V. Linksmann  on  Tue Oct 20, 2009  at  12:49 PM
AM is not a scam, it is a sausage party. The good news is if you're good with words you will get laid. I've also met girls on Craigslist- which guys will also try to convince me is a scam. I've learned from the girls I fooled around with that they will get 75-100 responses AN HOUR on craigslist. I don't know about AM but I suspect it's still 15-20. Line yourself up with 20 other guys- and all you're doing is sending off a pre-written, free wink message? some other guy (me) is writing her an actual email and spending the $1.25 to send it...who do you think she's going to write back to?

That said, I do believe there are fake women on AM trolling for you to spend credits. Try to remember that cliche, "if it looks too good to be true, it probably is"...
Posted by Paul  on  Wed Nov 04, 2009  at  01:50 PM
Recheck your information regarding Philanderers.com. It is 100% legitimate.

In chat its less of a hook up site and more of a support site for people already in affairs. Best part is people on forum and in chat are of above average intelligence and in most cases, looking for relationships and not just ONS.

Absolutely worthwhile site. But bring your game and your spell check. These people are looking for quality.

Met my MM there 6 years ago and the affair is still going strong!!
Posted by Lisa  on  Sat Nov 07, 2009  at  02:00 AM
I first tried AM a couple of years ago. Sure there are plenty of fake ads of women on there. Like who the hell would be attached and put their face pic on full display?? Or why do others show their pic but seem to have that same scratched out/blacked out area on the face??

I have had success. I would say I met at least 6 women in person. Had an affair with one for about 6 months(I decided to end it). Ran out of credits and signed up again then met another earlier this year. Have been seeing her not so much on a regular basis as before but we still get together at least once a month for sex. At the same time I was working on another one(planning to drop the one I was with) and had met up with her several times but it just seemed like our schedules would not work out to be able to have some intimate times together so I pretty much gave up on that. So overall, they're out there and I'm pretty picky so the women I've seen are not fat or butt ugly. You will probably waste credits responding to ads as you're basically in competition with 100's of other guys. Of the women I dated they said they received 100s of emails all the time and usually it was something I said in my initiation that set me apart from the others..that and they saw me as attractive to them. Good luck!
Posted by J  on  Thu Nov 12, 2009  at  12:00 PM
I've been using Ashley for years now and with great success and I do not have a photo posted in my ad at all, what I do have is personal content that is very specific in what and who I'm looking for.

Men in general are not being smart on the site and will messages females from a completely different city or state or yes even country and seriously guys ask yourself this,what married woman with a family is able to fly to meet and cheat???

I can not understand why Rob from California or Joe from Florida would message me in Calgary Alberta asking me if I am looking to meet considering that I've written that I'm seeking someone in my area.

Men are complaining to me about the women who contact them??? I recommend instead of sitting there and being lazy that you do some work search for women that are in your area. Read the profiles and see if she is looking for the same thing you are

Common sense guys that is what you need to use the site.

Oh and stop being so damn negative about your wives and calling them names because guess what??? we women are someones wife also and that just a big turn off.

Oh and yes your photos the number one turn off to me is when guys use photos of their wedding day, I think to myself what an a@@hole using his wedding photo and having the nerve to cut the bride out when it was more than likely that the brides family paid for the photo?

TACKY TACKY TACKY
Posted by Female AM member  on  Sat Nov 21, 2009  at  09:55 PM
Oh number two turn off is the guys that feel they must take 15 photos of Mr. Happy from all different angles and send them to women who are actually expecting to see the man before the man parts!!!
Posted by Female AM membe  on  Sat Nov 21, 2009  at  10:00 PM
Crap...I just signed up for AM this week. Seemed like it might be legit b/c I've seen it covered on real shows and never questioned.

I have to say I'm not a believer. There is no way some of the hot young chicks I saw on the site are putting their faces out there and looking for guys. And most of the really hot ones don't have personalized messages or member feedback.

I think there are probably real women on there, but few and far between.

Lesson learned...
Posted by Michael  on  Fri Dec 04, 2009  at  08:09 PM
Ashley Madison - definitely full of fake profiles Beware of sites that don't allow feedback on the profiles (Ashely Madison only allows Positive reviews) I've contacted Ashely Madison a few times about credit sucking profiles that are scams - they don't do jack to fix the problem It's 95% scam - avoid it.
Posted by Jakes  on  Sat Dec 05, 2009  at  08:51 AM
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