Well, talking about how being fat effects your love life does seem way out of line…
Oh you mean it’s way out of line when these patients are voluntarily seeing their doctors with complaints about their love lives? Doctors are often called upon, or asked about, problems with patients love lives… it’s not as though this guy said what Win’s husband was told… which I would consider unprofessional. (”You’d be better / good looking if you weren’t so fat.”) Addressing a patients love life is well within a doctors realm of responsibility though… rethink it. Viagra, Levitra, etc… doctors have been pulled into that area whether they liked it or not!
I’m sure most of them would probably rather NOT have to deal with helping patients with their love lives… they probably, like the rest of us, have enough fun dealing with their own.
Ok, if this doctor had said, “Gee, you’re so fat, you have your own gravitational pull”, fair enough, he’s out of line. But to give a patient a warning that their weight is the reason they get sick often and that there are solutions to the problem, where is the issue? I admit, I’m heavier than is healthy. And it wasn’t until my doctor ran some blood tests and showed me that I had high cholesterol, did it scare me into doing something about it. I was upset at first (coz my self esteem is low enough as it is) but I was smart enough to see the truth in the matter and start doing something about it.
This person is so stupid. They needed to be called FAT. I have a Dr. like this (well, he’s never told me I was fat, except when I was pregnant - and that was a joke), but he tells things like they are. If you don’t do THIS, then THIS will happen. If you can’t bother to follow my instructions to get well, you aren’t going to!
Well, talking about how being fat effects your love life does seem way out of line…
Oh you mean it’s way out of line when these patients are voluntarily seeing their doctors with complaints about their love lives? Doctors are often called upon, or asked about, problems with patients love lives… it’s not as though this guy said what Win’s husband was told… which I would consider unprofessional. (”You’d be better / good looking if you weren’t so fat.”) Addressing a patients love life is well within a doctors realm of responsibility though… rethink it. Viagra,Levitra, etc… doctors have been pulled into that area whether they liked it or not!
I’m sure most of them would probably rather NOT have to deal with helping patients with their love lives… they probably, like the rest of us, have enough fun dealing with their own.
Well what springs to my mind is a doctor saying “you’re not going to get dates being so fat.” Which isn’t necessarily true, some people have fat fetishes, or simply don’t mind plumpness. You don’t go to a doctor to have him tell you how sexually appealing you aren’t. I don’t think it’s any of a doctors business what roll being fat plays in someone’s sex life, unless that person actually seeks advice about it specifically.
Well what springs to my mind is a doctor saying “you’re not going to get dates being so fat.”
Point being… this doctor didn’t say that. Which makes her “complaint” to the board completely baseless and STUPID. Granted if a doctor ever said that to anyone, even if they were asked by a patient why they weren’t getting dates, it would be wrong. Unprofessional, uncouth, and tactless… even if asked the question it would be wrong to answer it that way. But my point is that telling them the truth is the only acceptable thing for a doctor to do! Which is what he did. He is right, she is whiner who wants to punish others because she’s overweight. If he had lied to her and just said… “Oh everything with you is great! Do whatever makes you happy!” Then she’d be in the news for suing him later after having a coronary episode or something and would blame him for not warning her! You can’t win in this country, and with courts like these!
My mom knew a doctor that had a similar situation…He had had a patient for about 10 years…and finally he tells the patient he can’t help her anymore. So the patient is upset, and asking why she can’t get help, her Doc is abandoning her, blah blah, boohoo. The Doc just tells her that when she first came to him, he said, she needed to be on a specific diet and exercise plan, and if she didn’t follow it, she would start gaining weight. When she had gained 20 lbs, and wanted to know what to do, he told her the same thing…and now, 10 years later, when she’s diabetic and can’t sleep, and has a heart problem…he’s not going to further advise her, b/c she refused to take the prescribed method of treatment. He told her she would keep getting fatter, and more and more sickly, until she died.
ok, i heard an update on this story that makes me regret defending Dr. Bennett. Seems his comments went well beyond what can be considered “constructive criticism”.
Well if this story is accurate then it would seem the guy is a big dickhead. Hell, if she really is a big gal… maybe she should have just whooped his ass!
