Although I can completely understand a parent’s grief, the sad fact about wartime combat is that it is messy, confused, unpredictable, and generally poorly-managed. There is no reason to believe that the war in Afghanistan can be “won” in a conventional military sense - the Afghanis are a clannish, medieval people who are both used to and adept at repelling foreign invasions. There is also no reason to expect that the average Afghani views this particular war as any different from any other.
The makeup of their society seems to be such that they fight amongst themselves when left alone, and yet somehow manage to create a pseudo-monolithic resistance to ANY foreign military intervention, no matter how well-intentioned.
The British tried to conquor Afghanistan - and failed. The Russians tried, too - and failed. The fact that WE percieve our current military intervention as “humanitarian” is probably not relevant to the average Afghani - we send soldiers, they shoot some people, therefore we are an invader. We likely can’t win this on military terms.
And more people’s children will die, regardless. Yet, I’m torn - the Taliban were and are a murderous, totalitarian bunch, and I think we must have some kind of moral duty to oppose them . . . I’m just not sure that the military solution is the way.