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Posted: 18 December 2009 09:27 AM   [ Ignore ]
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Erik shared with me some really thoughtless or clueless gift-giving stories he’d been listening to on the radio while coming home from work.  It was not only funny, but also sad in some case.  He didn’t relay all of them but here are a couple:

A husband bought his wife a shotgun and a day glo vest.  While both of these may seem to go hand-in-hand, the wife didn’t hunt nor was she interested in guns of any kind.

Another wife relayed her story of disappointment when she opened her gift from her husband and then didn’t know how to react even though she knew he loved her and cared for her safety; he’d given her tire chains.

Another was a friend’s gift which was a slushy maker.  The receiver realized, however, it was used since it hadn’t been cleaned.

It’s been years since I’ve been in a position to give gifts to anyone.  This year I can finally give to Erik which is a first since I never had funds before (I surely didn’t want him buying his own gifts), aside from those I made.  I actually spent almost my entire allotment on his this year and am terrified he’s not going to like them so I left the receipts inside so he can return them. 

I do remember MANY years ago buying a ping-pong table for my x who loved the game.  My neighbor next door helped me put it together in the basement so it would be a surprise ready to go.  I’d also purchased a movie camera and his family members got accessories for the camera which would be opened later Christmas day.

First he opened the camera and sighed a VERY exasperating sigh and informed me that he was not taking it out of the box at all and said that he wanted the receipt so he could take it back as soon as possible.  I was crushed because not only did he not want my gift (just this one cost a fortune), but that other gifts he was going to get that day would be filling up the car to be returned and other family members would likewise be crushed. 

The next few gifts (I don’t even recall now what they were) were considered then tossed aside except for one which was a butterfly knife. 

However, I hoped that I might be redeemed at least in part when I led him to the basement for his last gift, the ping pong table.  He stood, head jutted up between basement ceiling beams and I got another sigh.  He was taller than either me or my neighbor and would not even be able to see the ball coming let alone hit it back.  He suggested sarcastically that he could cut his legs down a bit, and at that moment I even considered it.  (the table could have been moved, but he was not interested, simply turned around and went back upstairs to watch tv and play with his knife)

I cried the rest of that Christmas away.  I never wanted to give another gift to anyone except maybe a cheap token.  And I didn’t. 

I’m sure I have received dumb gifts but I have loved them all because someone thought of me even if it was only long enough to write or type out my name for an address or a little tag.  I am terrified Erik will not like the gifts I got for him and Ikeep looking at the wrapped and hidden items every day…..scared….......

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Posted: 18 December 2009 01:22 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]
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Yeah… That’s a level of out right douchebaggery, there. You accept the gifts graciously, and smile. Granted, it sounds to me like he was being an emotionally-manupulative ass, and you’re well to be rid of him.

My stepmother’s side of the family keeps giving me booze. It’s decent, but I rarely drink, and only socially… and since my friends don’t drink, it’s *very* rare. I’ve since foisted off a few bottles as housewarming pressies.

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Posted: 18 December 2009 02:08 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]
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Wow Huli.  Your ex was an ass.  yu should have beaten him with the table legs and filmed it with the camera to show all of your friends and family.  wink

As Crafty has mentioned before, last year she bought her mother a book. Crafty selected it because it seemed to be just the style that her mom had been foisted off on us for several years. (She often gives us her used Tom Clancy novels and suchlike.)  Her mom opened it, read the title, and said, “Why would you think i would like THAT?” blank stare

When Crafty told me, i just about went back over there and fed it to her a page at a time! mad (Crafty was crushed.)

Unfortunately some people don’t get it. In her mom’s case, she makes up a list of presents and fully expects that we will only buy from that list. rolleyes Unfortunately, we can’t afford Saks 5th Ave….. downer

I am sure Erik will LOVE what you have gotten him. (Just because you care enough to try….) hmmm grin

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Posted: 18 December 2009 02:36 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 3 ]
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I agree with pretty much what Robin and Dave said, Huli.  Your ex was a jerk and being a manipulative jerk, which matches some of the other stories you’ve told us about him.

But from what you’ve told us of Erik I’m sure he will love whatever you got him just becuase you did pick it out. And you picked it out for him!

(Now make sure you have Erik read this thread before Christmas morning just in case. That way he can react appropriately. wink )

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Posted: 18 December 2009 03:51 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 4 ]
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I have had gift giving phobia every since girl scouts when we had a gift exhange one Christmas.  We didn’t buy for anybody in particular, but just brought a present to the party and you picked it out of a bag or something.

Well, nerd that I am, I bought some type of puzzle (pre rubiks cube days, but something like that),and the girl that got it was very upset and disappointed.  I was crushed.  Only years later did I realize that she was a spoiled baby.

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Posted: 18 December 2009 10:59 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 5 ]
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Huli I think you’re a sweet and sensitive individual. On Christmas Day I will know that you will have given of yourself in a loving way and to me that is what really matters.

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Posted: 19 December 2009 12:17 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 6 ]
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Not much to say, Huli, except ditto what everyone else has said.  I know you care a great deal about the people around you, and I’m sure you put a great deal of thought and love into Erik’s presents.

I know it’s hard, but try not to worry too much, hon. *bighugs*

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Posted: 19 December 2009 12:18 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 7 ]
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My mom’s a hard person to shop for. She never likes being given gifts (if she wants something, she just gets it herself). Every year, she makes a point to figure out one thing for my dad and brother and I to get for her.

Two years ago, she said that the one thing she wanted was a new wheelbarrow. When my dad and I were at Home Depot, I asked him if we should get one while we were there. He said it would be too difficult to get home and got her a toaster instead. shut eye

We ended up giving the toaster back, Mom got her wheelbarrow later, and the next year’s gift for her (a sugar bowl) was much better received.

Oh, and a few years ago, my Physics class decided to spontaneously have a Secret Santa event. I got a little moose doll for my person. She accepted it happily enough. When I got to my English class, about six periods later, I noticed that the teacher had the exact same moose doll on his desk…

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Posted: 19 December 2009 12:20 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 8 ]
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daveprime - 19 December 2009 05:17 AM

Not much to say, Huli, except ditto what everyone else has said.  I know you care a great deal about the people around you, and I’m sure you put a great deal of thought and love into Erik’s presents.

I know it’s hard, but try not to worry too much, hon. *bighugs*

*sigh* red face  Did it again…. downer

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Posted: 19 December 2009 01:23 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 9 ]
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Crafty Dragon - 19 December 2009 05:20 AM

*sigh* red face  Did it again…. downer

Do we need to get you two to start writing every comment as a professional letter?

“18 December, 2009

Dear Hulitoons,

I feel that etc. etc. etc. . .

Sincerely,

Crafty Dragon, Montanaian Extraordinaire”

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Posted: 19 December 2009 03:33 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 10 ]
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LOL
No, I just need my own computer to use again!

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Posted: 19 December 2009 03:45 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 11 ]
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Accipiter - 19 December 2009 06:23 AM
Crafty Dragon - 19 December 2009 05:20 AM

*sigh* red face  Did it again…. downer

Do we need to get you two to start writing every comment as a professional letter?

“18 December, 2009

Dear Hulitoons,

I feel that etc. etc. etc. . .

Sincerely,

Crafty Dragon, Montanaian Extraordinaire”

Even funnier is that she almost responded to your post….AS ME…Again!!! LOL  LOL
Gee, think she’s hinting about what she wants for her b-day in Jan.? wink

Naw….... blank stare  cheese

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