Just wanted to get that off my chest.

What’s the trouble? I don’t think there are many differences between the genders naturally, but mainly social expectation that creates differences. I guess the prinicipal natural difference is hormones and the natural cycle that women experience obviously affects their mood, but otherwise psychologists have found few differences.

http://www.psychologymatters.org/nodifference.html

I have it on good authority that they find us equally baffling.

Mr R - 17 November 2009 12:58 AM

What’s the trouble?

Do I need a reason? Let’s just say I had a curly one thrown at me.

Mr R - 17 November 2009 12:58 AM

I don’t think there are many differences between the genders naturally, but mainly social expectation that creates differences. I guess the prinicipal natural difference is hormones and the natural cycle that women experience obviously affects their mood, but otherwise psychologists have found few differences.

Try that line the next time you’re on a date and see how far you get.

Agreed. One thing I’ve found is that one must *never* bring up things like ‘monthly cycles’ or ‘hormones’ with women. The *best* response is rolling of the eyes and muttering that men don’t understand such things. In most cases, it will result in grouchiness, anger, and hostility. If you’re unlucky enough to actually mention it when such things are.. more noticable.. then you’re really in for it, and you’ve got about a one in four chance, there.

Besides, guys have hormones too, and even monthly cycles. Just not as noticable. It’s why some guys go on fishing trips or retreat to ‘man caves’ like the garage workbench or the den occasionally.

Peter - 17 November 2009 01:06 AM

Do I need a reason? Let’s just say I had a curly one thrown at me.

What does that mean Peter:  curly one?  Was this a blind date?  A date with someone you know?  I’m pretty sure you are dating and not in a relationship yet….?

Should I also add:  Decoding Men’s Oddball Love Signals

hulitoons - 17 November 2009 04:14 AM

Peter - 17 November 2009 01:06 AM

Do I need a reason? Let’s just say I had a curly one thrown at me.

What does that mean Peter:  curly one?  Was this a blind date?  A date with someone you know?  I’m pretty sure you are dating and not in a relationship yet….?

Should I also add:  Decoding Men’s Oddball Love Signals

“curly one” is a term I use to describe a thing or action that is so highly unusual or so unexpected as to cause significant confusion or other such emotion for the person on the receiving end.

I’m currently neither dating nor in a relationship.

I’ll never understand people who lump an entire gender - about 50% of the world’s population - together, as if they’re all the same.

I agree, confusion is not gender exclusive.  I’ve been confused by both verbal and communicative gestures in not just humans, but also in other species….....heck, even in myself.  The only way you can really understand anyone is to ‘be’ that individual (and as I stated in the prior sentence, even that can be ‘curly’)

It was odd to me to discover that some past lovers actually loved me and were wounded when our relationship ended, particularly because they physically harmed me, emotionally manipulated me, or were simply seldom if ever there.

I’ve spent a lifetime trying to solve the puzzle and have been more successful at reading ‘critter’ language than that of ‘humans’.  I view myself as being more plain like that of critters because I don’t understand, nor do I play the politics of human doings but mostly because they’re beyond me.

I can help, I am a doctor you know.

I don’t try to understand ‘em.  I just enjoy their weird womanliness. 

I agree with Accipiter.  I’ve had much greater happiness with women since I’ve stopped trying to figure out what’s going on and just enjoy the ride.

So to speak.