Unfortunately I don't have a login to read the actual article, but basically
it supposedly says that the higher a woman's IQ is, the less likely she is
to get married.
I don't think that this study holds much water at all, because there are TONS more factors that go into whether or not you get married than just your intelligence. While it probably does have a bearing, it is by no means the only way that people pick their mates.
WoW Rod, that was kinda Deep. Also, I believe you are right on the money.
thunder
in England Member
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 01:18 PM
hmm... i kind of agree, dont mean to sound big headed but i am smart at some things, and I don't see my dating prospects that high. 'Course, I'm in High School so you can only really count this for when I report back in about 35 years.
O_o
Winona
in USA Member
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 01:34 PM
Hmmm. I dunnno about the validity of this but.. they say that one of the possible reasons that they don't is that men supposedly want to marry women dumber than they are.
I last tested at 128, my husband at 133 so it holds true for us, if you believe that IQ tests are a valid form of measurement of intelligence. (I think it is only partially true - I've known lower scorers that often blow me out of the water.)
I do have a theory though, that successful marriages need to have two people who are within 10 or so points of each other IQ-wise...
I thinks it is about communication. Some women and men will not marry if they can't have an "On Their Level" intellectual conversation with the other. That in it's own will prevent a relationship. It kinda goes side and side with looks. If one works out all the time and is in great shape, will usually try to find someone that does the same. Very attractive people will "usually" end up with other attractive people. Same for the not so attractive.
I agree with you Stephen and Winona. My last boyfriend was a very nice guy, but intellectually nothing was there. It would frustrate me to know end that I couldn’t have an intellectual conversation with him about anything. He didn’t know what was going on in current events around the world, he didn’t know about local politics, he stared blankly at me when ever I attempted to talk about anything slightly philosophical, and hell, he didn’t even know who Led Zeppelin was. It was quite an issue. I got frustrated attempting to talk to him, and he would get frustrated with me when I was talking about something he didn’t understand. Needless to say, we didn’t last too long.
This person was of age, right???? LoL...
The only thing that is a turn off with my girlfriend is that she has no Career goals. Im allways trying to do better. I take risks. Hell, I have too, I don't have a degree (I can kick myself for not getting one). I allways want better, and I am allways looking, I am never satisfied. just 5 yr's ago I was stocking shelves making $18,000.00 a year. Now, allthough some of you might not consider it much, I am at $34,000.00. I have gone through at least 5 different jobs to get here. She is happy with working in a photo lab at Walgreens making $8.00 an hour. I try to convince her to become a manager, but wants nothing to do with it. She doesn't think she has the brains. I know that is bull shit.
One of many, many factors affecting this might be that more intelligent women are much more likely to be pursueing careers or higher education and thus be less likely to get married at an earlier age.
I can say, definatively that smart women are not interested in me. The only women I've met who really wanted to go out with me were intellectually somewhere near clods of dirt. An incredible turnoff. I'd much rather be with someone who understands the things I say and doesn't just sit there with a blank look on her face.
Only 1 time I have dated a woman that was much more intellectual then I was. She was older then me, by about 5 yr.s. Had a BS in this, a Masters in that; You know, that type. The only reason, and I mean, THE ONLY reason she was interested in me was because I played guitar. She considered me a "Bad Boy" type. She showed me her world, Nice Dinners, Wine, upscale parties. I tell you what, This freaked me out and I felt like a looser when I was around "HER" people. It was because of her why I did what I could to move up. That relationship lasted 6 months. I ended it when she brought up marriage.
Winona
in USA Member
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 03:11 PM
Can't blame her, I'm a sucker for a guitarist too.
I only tend to date musicians, though I will go for a non-musician if he still understands music. In fact, if a guy I don't know asks me out, I ask him "do you know what a french horn looks like?" and if he doesn't know then I turn him down right there. If I tell a guy I play the f. horn and he doesn't know what that is then frankly, he isn't worth my time.
Definitely a sucker for the guitarists...they seem so nimble with their fingers! Plus the whole serenade thing could be nice...I find that I get on better with guys who do know a few things about music.
Hairy Houdini
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 07:14 PM
I just wrote a song, while playing my guitar... I call it: "She don't like conversation, but she loves a cunning linguist"... Where's my saxophone?
As far as I know, it's not deemed as appropriate for an intellectual woman to get a charming, studly husband as it is for an intellectual man to get a trophy wife. So perhaps smarter women hold out for smarter guys, who just happen to be ugly nerds; and in the long run they end up lonely.
Now quickly, Razela, tell me what a didgeridoo is!
Hairy Houdini
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 08:36 PM
The vibratory trill of a reed instrument resonates in many ways, many places, many times. It's King to be Goodman
Hairy Houdini
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 08:45 PM
The Digireedoo is reedless, but makes up for that fact by it's great length, and sturdy, low tones
Hairy Houdini
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 | 08:48 PM
Some people liken close proximity to a digireedoo while being played, as akin to sitting upon a speaker (with the bass on 11) and rotating
