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#18: “Would You Go To Bed With Me Tonight?”
If you were a man walking across the campus of Florida State University in 1978, an attractive young woman might have approached you and said these exact words: "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you to be attractive. Would you go to bed with me tonight?"
If you were that man, you probably would have thought that you had just gotten incredibly lucky. But not really. You were actually an unwitting subject in an experiment designed by the psychologist Russell Clark.
Clark had persuaded the students of his social psychology class to help him find out which gender, in a real-life situation, would be more receptive to a sexual offer from a stranger. The only way to find out, he figured, was to actually get out there and see what would happen. So young men and women from his class fanned out across campus and began propositioning strangers.
The results weren't very surprising. Seventy-five percent of guys were happy to oblige an attractive female stranger (and those who said no typically offered an excuse such as, "I'm married"). But not a single woman accepted the identical offer of an attractive male. In fact, most of them demanded the guy leave her alone.
At first the psychological community dismissed Clark's experiment as a trivial stunt, but gradually his experiment gained first acceptance, and then praise for how dramatically it revealed the differing sexual attitudes of men and women. Today it's considered a classic. But why men and women display such different attitudes remains as hotly debated as ever.
If you were that man, you probably would have thought that you had just gotten incredibly lucky. But not really. You were actually an unwitting subject in an experiment designed by the psychologist Russell Clark.
Clark had persuaded the students of his social psychology class to help him find out which gender, in a real-life situation, would be more receptive to a sexual offer from a stranger. The only way to find out, he figured, was to actually get out there and see what would happen. So young men and women from his class fanned out across campus and began propositioning strangers.
The results weren't very surprising. Seventy-five percent of guys were happy to oblige an attractive female stranger (and those who said no typically offered an excuse such as, "I'm married"). But not a single woman accepted the identical offer of an attractive male. In fact, most of them demanded the guy leave her alone.
At first the psychological community dismissed Clark's experiment as a trivial stunt, but gradually his experiment gained first acceptance, and then praise for how dramatically it revealed the differing sexual attitudes of men and women. Today it's considered a classic. But why men and women display such different attitudes remains as hotly debated as ever.
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Posted by katie oneil in usa on Mon Mar 24, 2008 at 04:58 PM
The difference in responses make sense. Both on an evolutionary level and a 'holy shit I could get raped' level.
Men choose mates based primarily on 'replication value'. Certain hip/waist/bust ratios have been proven to be 'more attractive' to the majority of males. Men shown pictures of women (and vice versa) have chosen the more fertile subjects as the most attractive. The 'spread my seed' thing is true as well, since men existed in hunter/gatherer times only to continue the species.
Whereas women choose mates based on 'survival value'. If we get attacked, is this guy going to be able to protect my kids? Is he loyal enough to stick around? These questions still exist. Guys who display loyalty are very attractive to women. Confidence, posture, etc. are more important than statuesque features.
Point is, replication value is immediately evident, whereas survival value must be proven. So the 'Nice shoes, want to *#$k' line works on men more than women (though 33% of women responded 'yes' in the German study mentioned on page 1).
Posted by Adam in CT on Thu Apr 03, 2008 at 05:33 AM
I the 'seed spreading' arguement held any water, our national sex symbols would all be fat chicks.
Furthurmore, we dont' really know how 'hunter-gatherer' societies worked, and the assumptions embodied in that tautological arguement, and has been correctly labeled a "flintstones version of ancient history" by some authors. Well, unlike some quacks, I'm not going to assume that the beginning of human existance had the same culture as the 1950s.
Posted by gs on Mon Apr 28, 2008 at 02:39 PM
I think it would be different in all places for sexual tendencies. At some places it might easier for both male and females for this to occur and other places it might be down right crazy.
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Posted by PikaPoka in Florida on Mon Aug 04, 2008 at 07:09 AM
yeah. i am read to do it.
Men will be always ready to do that and ofcourse women too..
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Posted by condomman in russia on Thu Oct 30, 2008 at 05:21 AM
Men are big and strong. Women are not so... luckily. So a women would probably feel threatened by such an offer. and she could get raped.
I think a lot of it is as simple as that. No disrespect to women - but I believe they probably enjoy sex just as much as men.
But only if they are safe...
Posted by Dexy on Sat Dec 20, 2008 at 07:20 AM
Females choose their mating partners purely on biological reasons (ie, only conceive the healthiest seed for continuity of best offspring and protect the offspring during pregnancy). It is genetically embedded in them. This behaviour is common in many mammals. While male chose any partner to diverse their seed, this is also a genetically embedded attitude.
Some may ask, then why do women put on attractive sexy dresses and take sexy makeups while in public? well the answer is "To attract as many potential donors near them and then choose the best one out of many"
Absolutey biological and natural instinct.
I hope this answers all ambiguity.
Thanks
Posted by Rocky in Greece on Wed Dec 24, 2008 at 07:52 AM
Ill let you all know how it goesbecause my class is doing the same experiment for a project! "that was almost 30 years ago.
now would be 100% man would said yes and 50% for woman." ill let cha know!
Posted by courtney on Tue Feb 03, 2009 at 02:31 PM
It is sooo simple. I love having sex as long as I get at least one orgasm. I would have no problem with having sex with an attractive stranger if I knew 2 things. 1) He would have sex with me in such a way that I would have at least one orgasm.
2) I felt confident that I could subdue him if I felt I needed to so that I could control what kind of sex we had, how long we had sex, and make sure I would not be harmed or killed.
This is exactly what men require to have sex with strangers as well. Since I cannot be sure a stranger will participate in sex to the end that I have at least one orgasm and I cannot dominate the man so that I can decided what kind of sex will ensue, how long I will have it, and ensure that I will not be hurt or killed, I will not have sex with a strange.
Easy, simple end of story. Men wouldn't have sex with strangers unless they had those 2 requirements either. That's the only difference.
Posted by Cindy in USA on Tue Feb 17, 2009 at 07:53 AM
I find the "men will hump anything" explanation inaccurate. Men go for the healthiest and most fertile looking mate (ie: Young looking with hourglass shape), they do have standards too you know, but if a woman has these qualities it's all green.
Posted by Ole Kr on Fri Feb 27, 2009 at 05:52 AM
Tim from Arizona>"Bars are a controlled environment......" I mean no disrespect but bars contain and encourage alcohol consumption, alcohol consumption can lead to extreme loss of control, loss of control (due to alcohol) can cause irrational behavior, aggression, elevated sexual promiscuity and communication breakdown. Now, I don't know what type of bars you have been exposed to but crowds of people, loud music and dark corners...populated by many dwellers in the above state leaves plenty an opportunity for non-consenting sex. This usually refers to acts of force and/or aggression sexually towards the woman (or man!) Unless the bar is S&M specific, this is generally not "under her terms"
Posted by Brenda in Melbourne, Australia on Sun Mar 01, 2009 at 01:39 PM
What's this Evolution Of Man thing? God made Man, then woman FROM man!!!! And of course you should say 'NO' to sex with a stranger, only and ONLY are you permitted to participate in sexual relations (with the intention to conceive) if you have been united in marriage with the participating other!!! Silly people!
Posted by Brenda in Melbourne, Australia on Sun Mar 01, 2009 at 02:40 PM
Just ask any man in a long term heterosexual relationship whether his female lover wants sex as much as he does. You'll find out women do not need sex nearly as much as men. In fact, most people suffer silently because they have given up asking for it.
Posted by Cal in Earth on Thu Mar 19, 2009 at 06:01 PM
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Posted by Daniel in Charlottesville on Mon Mar 23, 2009 at 10:02 AM
I'm tired of hearing about the evolutionarily example. It's just an excuse for bad behavior.
Posted by JustanExuse on Thu Aug 06, 2009 at 07:00 PM
I have a sneaky suspicion that if these women were approached by a rock star or a male celebrity, many of them actually would agree to sleep with him(even though most women wouldn't admit to this! :p). Looks alone just aren't enough for women to get in the sack with a man. They want to know that he brings home the bacon and has good genes. That means that women wanna get to know him a better to size him up(if he's a stranger and not famous).
Posted by Anton on Tue Mar 02, 2010 at 08:30 AM
No shit it didn't work, not one of those guys was Richard Feynman.
Posted by Chris on Wed Mar 10, 2010 at 02:24 AM
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